In just a few short weeks, we will be approaching the end of the calendar year, so I want to extend a special thank you to all of my client friends, colleagues, and personal circle. Without you, we could not have reached thousands of leaders across the globe in over 40 countries. Next year, we hope to bring fresh, new content that digs deep and brings learning to the surface. If you’ve been following our work for any amount of time, you know that love and learning are at the heart of what we do. Life isn’t perfect, work isn’t perfect, and relationships aren’t perfect, but that’s why we do what we do.  We are going to take a dose of our own medicine and pause for the remainder of the year. This will be our last recording in 2022. We’ll be resting, connecting with loved ones, and enjoying good food and laughter. When 2023 picks back up, we hope that you will join us with our new content. We have some exciting things coming up that will bring us even deeper into the heart of what we do. If you have any questions, call or email us. In the meantime, have a happy holiday season and we’ll see you again in 2023.

We’re nearing the end of the year, and it’s time to start looking at how we want to approach 2023. One suggestion I have is to take a close look at your learning and development strategy. Quite often, we start with the strategy. However, I suggest that you go even deeper. Perhaps it’s time to start looking at the relationship that you or your team has with these three things: 1. The mind. Do you know that we have over 180 cognitive biases that we are subject to falling into every single day? I sure hope that we aren’t limited to the scope of our thinking. “Our inside game strongly influences our outside game.” 2. Time. We often hear the saying, “I don’t have enough time,” or “I ran out of time,” but how about managing time better?  3. The uncontrollable. I think this is the most difficult relationship. The uncontrollable consists of everyday change, temptation, problems, testing, etc.  I strongly believe in individuals leading from authenticity. We can’t stop at just how we think and behave—we also have to look at how we feel, as well as our Spirit life. We are coming off the heels of a lot of heaviness, trauma, and disruption. Today we need leaders who are capable of going the distance. We are in a long-haul game and we need these skills.  Here’s the good news: Even though you’ve likely already tapped into your strategic planning, it’s not too late to go back and look at your learning and development, and weave that in to ensure it’s tightly embedded. Our inside game strongly influences our outside game. If you have any questions, contact me by phone or email.

Boost your conversation-readiness by using these 5 prompts. For many people, the end of the year is a time for renewal and rejuvenation. Having important conversations may lead you to feeling refreshed for 2023. If you participated in “think week,” now is the time to put some of that thought into action. Here is an opportunity to boost your conversation readiness by using these powerful questions: 1. What conversations do I need to have? With yourself, with those that you love, and those that you support—what are the conversations to have with them to get through the next season with success? 2. What barriers can get in the way? What can prevent you from having these conversations? 3. What are the consequences? What happens if you don’t have those conversations? 4. What are the possibilities? What could come about from having these conversations? 5. How can I show up authentically? What permissions do you need to give yourself? These are just a few powerful questions for you to self-coach using the wisdom you gained from “think week.” They will help you prepare for the upcoming year and celebrate the wonderful things that you’ve done. Put these questions into practice, and see what they yield for you in the season to come! Don’t forget to hit the subscribe button or subscribe at the CaPeesh YouTube Channel . If you’re wanting to get centered for 2023, you might find this helpful . Finally, each year I work with a limited number of inspiring individuals on a 1:1 basis.  If you’re a leader who cares deeply about people, wants to push the edges of life and make bigger impact, let’s have a conversation and see if we’re a match ! BIG love, Char

In my coaching practice and personal life, I see a really bad trap that derails success – unhealthy comparison. Comparison is a natural mental function and a part of our survival. We’re able to look at something and then compare and contrast to see differences or similarities. The problem is that when we get hooked by unhealthy comparisons in a social context, we start to tie it or link it with our identity and self-worth. “Remember this: comparison is the ego’s playground.” If you are making a difference in the world, challenging the status quo, and daring to do different things, I assure you that you are at risk of falling into the trap of comparison. When you do, you often ask yourself, “How does this apply to me?” A very common example of that is when we’re on our social media feeds, and we’re scrolling away and watching people live their best lives. Our mind doesn’t know any difference and constantly asks itself these questions: “How does this relate to me?” “Do I have that, or do I measure up?”  It’s time to get serious about this because it’s not just happening to you. It’s happening to at least most of us, if not all of us. Remember this: comparison is the ego’s playground. The next time that you feel that tinge of envy, jealousy, or that knot in your stomach that causes you to question if you’re worthy or have enough, say these words out loud: I am enough.  Every time you find yourself in the mode of unhealthy comparison, tell yourself those words out loud, then begin to believe them. All in all, and heart to heart, I just want to say you aren’t alone, and you are enough. If this resonates with you, feel free to drop a comment below or send me an email message. I’d love to hear from you.

Why identifying your values is so important and how you can do it today. Have you ever taken the time to identify your values? I’m here to share a tool which I believe is the foundation for effective leadership and wholehearted living. It’s called Value Identification, and you can access the guide by clicking here .  Value Identification is a process where you look at a list of values, identify your top 10, distill it down to your top five, and then eventually your top two. The key is to not spend too much time obsessing over whether you’re going to get it right or wrong. I suggest that you follow your intuition, and circle the ones that you feel show up most frequently in your life. “Values are who you are and how you express yourself.” Remember that values are not aspirations; they’re who you are and how you express yourself most often. Values are important to me because they are the core of my decisions, and they tell me if I am headed in the right direction. Then, once you’ve identified your top two values, I encourage you to share them with your circle of trust so your loved ones can help keep you accountable. This is a great family or team exercise.  Go ahead and give it a try, and send me a note to let me know how it’s working for you. If you have questions, I’m happy to help—just call or email me. I look forward to hearing from you!

I’m talking to all of my brave folks out there. This one thing is something so important that you cannot do without: your square squad, or as I call it, my circle of trust. These are a core group of folks who have your back. These are not your “yes” people. These are the individuals in your life who love you, care about you, and want to see you succeed. These are the people who celebrate with you, and they also sit next to you when you’ve fallen flat. These are the people who will pick you up, who will dust you off, and who’ll send you back out there. They’ll be on the sidelines of that arena, and they’ll be wishing you well. “Touch base periodically with your circle so they can walk alongside you. ” These are not the naysayers or the haters out there. These are the people who are going to ride or die with you. Get those people. Identify who they are. More importantly, let them know that they’re important. Thank them for holding you accountable to your values and keeping you walking around as your most authentic self .  Furthermore, keep checking in with them periodically. Let them know what you’re planning. Let them know what changes and shifts are happening in your life so they can walk alongside you. Finally, show them some love. Let them know that you appreciate them and that you’re grateful for all that they do for you and in your life.  I hope that this has been helpful. Thanks for stopping by and for supporting CaPeesh Consulting. Take care and salamat po .

Aloha! People frequently ask me why I love my work so much, and I’m here to share the answer with you. In a nutshell, I love serving people . I genuinely believe that our lives are not just our own. For as long as I can remember, I’ve always been a listener; I enjoy hearing people’s stories, and that skill has served me well.  As a coach, consultant, and facilitator, the core of my work is hearing stories from individuals and teams and then helping my clients make sense of what’s truly happening. What I love most about being of service to people is helping them live a fuller life. I believe that the potential we have as humans can’t be discovered alone. You have a partner when you work with me; I’m walking alongside you.  I love to help people dream bigger, and more importantly, I’m a great accountability partner to help you ensure you’re taking the right steps and finding the resources you need. Let me know if you have any questions, I’d love to connect with you. Also, if you’ve worked with me before, I’d love for you to email me a note letting me know what the best part of CaPeesh Consulting was for you. Salamat Po!

When I was younger, I loved to write love letters to friends and family. It was my way of reaching through time and distance to put a heart stamp on their day. I’m back from my two-week reset, and a lot of inspiration came to me after being taken out of my Hawaii bubble  and going to a place that I hadn’t been to in a long time. Today I want to share a love letter with you. “Life is short, and you were created for a purpose. If you could do anything, barring all fear, I dare you to take that leap of faith. Do it afraid and stop comparing yourself to everyone else because it doesn’t matter. What is for you, is for you—go for it. You’ve got what it takes.” If you have any questions, don’t hesitate to reach out to me by phone or email. Big love to you.

Maturing your ego is key to improving your life, business, and relationships. The concept of ego is an often underappreciated topic when it comes to developing leadership skills. Your ego is the part of your psyche that aims to protect you from harm. Its sole focus is self-preservation and proving your worthiness in comparison to others. Many people refer to egos as “big or inflated” in a negative way, but I prefer to think of them as either developed or underdeveloped. This gives us all hope! People with underdeveloped egos tend to lack emotional intelligence  and are less likely to be successful in a changing world. They often: Lack awareness of their own behavior Stonewall feedback Struggle with change and get stuck Blame others when things go wrong Cover up mistakes Try to appear as knowing all the answers Lack concern for others Won’t open up and share feelings for fear of appearing weak Don’t trust others and won’t ask for help Won’t speak up or set boundaries for fear of consequences “The underdeveloped ego operates in fear. The developed ego operates in love.” On the other hand, people with developed egos have higher emotional intelligence and are better equipped to thrive in uncertainty.  These people: Are aware of their own behavior Accept feedback Are curious amid changing conditions Are empathetic towards others and share their feelings Take ownership of what’s theirs and ask what they can do to improve a situation Admit to not knowing all the answers Trust others and know how to ask for help Set healthy boundaries out of respect for themselves and others It’s critical to continuously mature our egos to improve conditions within our communities, organizations, and family relationships. You can assess the maturity of your own ego by reflecting on these four questions: During stressful or unexpected situations, do you lash out at others or do you ask for help? When someone else buys a new car, gets promoted, or loses weight, do you compare yourself to their gains?  Are you often annoyed by minor things and complain persistently about how others behave or do you take time to appreciate what you have? When you make a mistake, do you allow it to loop in your head over and over or do you practice self-compassion? In the end, a mature ego leads to a healthier soul and happier life. If you have any questions or you are ready to dive deeper into your development as a leader, reach out to me at info@capeeshconsulting.com . Let’s explore your possibilities together.

Learn the 5 stages of adult development that lead to true maturity. You might not believe it, but we’re more than halfway done with 2022. Time has flown by this year, and you may have reached some important milestones or anniversaries. However, maturity can’t really be measured by a number. Then the question becomes: how mature are you? According to former Havard psychologist Robert Kegan, “Becoming an adult isn’t just about learning new things.” In reality, maturing happens in five basic steps: 1. The impulsive mind.  This describes a stage like early childhood. We do what we want when we want, with no regard for other people. 2. The imperial mind.  We’re more transactional in our relationships. We can cooperate with others, but we leave as soon as we don’t get what we want. “Maturity can’t be measured by a number. ” 3. The socialized mind.  We are no longer purely transactional; instead, we grab onto norms, beliefs, and culture. About 58% of the adult population remains in this place. 4. The self-authoring mind.  We can define ourselves as individuals within the larger culture. 5. The transforming mind.  We don’t get stuck in ideals and are no longer slaves to our identities. If you want to reach a transformed mind, I can help you examine how you’re disciplined. What are you doing now to grow your self-control, discipline, and maturity? I’d love to hear how you’re growing yourself and your relationships. Call or email me with any questions, or even just to talk. I look forward to hearing from you!

At CaPeesh Consulting, we help grow minds and hearts. Over the last couple of months, I’ve been working with teams to teach them how to have hard conversations. I even reached out over social media and polled people on the question, “What’s so hard about having hard conversations?” Here are a few good responses I received: Karelin said, “ For me, it’s owning up to the fact that things aren’t working or something has gone wrong—and now I have to ask for change. ” Shawna said, “ I think it comes down to fear. Fear of being judged, challenged, not knowing what to say, making someone feel bad, or feeling bad myself. ” Many people are fearful of hard conversations not because of the conversation itself but because of the uncertainty and risk of emotional exposure. If that’s the case for you, that simply means you care.  When something is classified as “hard,” it means there’s an opportunity; when you learn how to navigate the hard parts, you are actually tapping into a key part of your deepest power— your heart.   Here at CaPeesh Consulting, we help transform leaders and their teams into courageous folks who know how to have hard conversations. We do this through experiential methodologies that benefit people by helping them: Stop gossiping and go straight to the source. Feel heard and seen, which then leads to better relationships.  And as I’ve said in a previous video, it’s hard to leave an organization when we love the people we’re working with. Begin to trust more and take more risks.  “When you learn how to navigate the hard parts, you are actually tapping into a key part of your deepest power— your heart. ” So where do we start?  We start with increasing awareness of our tolerance for vulnerability, then practicing proven frameworks that turn hard conversations into honest ones. Then, those interactions can become less scary.   You can do this!  Let’s stop avoiding those hard conversations and lean into that vulnerability. If you have any questions or would like assistance in overcoming your own fears about having hard conversations, give me a call or send me an email. I’d love to help you. Salamat Po, and take care of yourself!

Here are four steps you can take to navigate your changing context. I’ve received a lot of responses to my recent blog post on “The Great Resignation.”  I loved chatting with my clients and realized many of those conversations were heading in a similar direction.  Many of you are not only managing around the changes, but you are also feeling the pressure that YOUR context may be changing too.    If you feel stuck or trapped in your circumstances, your context is probably about to change.  Most of my clients are senior to mid-career leaders who have worked in their field for a long time. They know what they’re doing, but the nature of business coupled with personal traumas leave folks feeling like they don’t have control over their situations.  “Moments that excite you tell you something about yourself.” Getting unstuck isn’t as easy as one two three, but I can help you get started with a few simple steps: 1. Reflect on what you value.  Learn what matters to you at your core, and write it down.  2. Be honest about what’s changing in your life.  Acknowledge the potential grief that may occur due to this change and talk about it to someone who cares about you.  3. Talk to your coach about three things that excite you.  Look at what brings visceral excitement to you. Write them down because these moments are trying to tell you something about yourself and what you need NOW. 4. Become an explorer.  Take time to explore your possibilities by asking a few questions. What’s realistic? What would it take to engage with your ideas? What resources do you have or need? How do these exciting things you’ve pondered align with your values? How do they speak to who you are becoming?  I recommend you bookmark this video and walk through this process when you’re ready. As always, if you need help walking through your next steps, contact me and I’ll get you connected with a qualified coach to support you. I look forward to connecting with you!  Salamat po!